August 13, 2025
Difficult people
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"By giving unconditional love...we become more loving, and by sharing spiritual growth we become more spiritual."
Basic Text, p. 103
Most of us have one or two exceptionally difficult people in our lives. How do we deal with such a person in our recovery?
First, we take our own inventory. Have we wronged this person? Has some action or attitude of ours served as an invitation for the kind of treatment they have given us? If so, we will want to clear the air, admit we have been wrong, and ask our Higher Power to remove whatever defects may prevent us from being helpful and constructive.
Next, as people seeking to live spiritually oriented lives, we approach the problem from the other person's point of view. They may be faced with any number of challenges we either fail to consider or know nothing about, challenges that cause them to be unpleasant. As it's said, we seek in recovery "to forgive rather than be forgiven; to understand rather than be understood."
Finally, if it is within our power, we seek ways to help others overcome their challenges without injuring their dignity. We pray for their well-being and spiritual growth and for the ability to offer them the unconditional love that has meant so much to us in our recovery.
We cannot change the difficult people in our lives, nor can we please everyone. But by applying the spiritual principles we've learned in NA, we can learn to love them.
Just for Today: Higher Power, help me serve other people, not demand that they serve me.
So very apt for me as I was in this situation i kick myself for having called Purnima Singh.
Here’s a sharper, more cohesive version with the help of AI :
The day before, Hema had escorted me to Nature—almost like tucking me into bed. As usual, my luggage was considerable; after all, this was going to be home for a month. I’d left my backpack in the car. When Hema asked why, I simply said “jlt”—just like that—without thinking much about it. I was tense, focused on checking in, and aware that Hema had a long drive home, which was on my mind.
It never crossed my mind that she might find this suspicious. But she didn’t share her thoughts with me—instead, she texted the “inner core” about it behind my back.
My relationship with Puru has never been easy. I’ve never truly let my hair down with her, always wearing a mask in her presence. My new life leaves no room for masks—and no room for Purnima Singh. The surprising part? I feel lighter for it, not sad.
Later, in a casual “aaa bhel mere ko maar” moment, she brought up the backpack again. At first, I had no idea what she meant, then it clicked—Hema had been suspicious. That stung. My sisters are the only ones who know me for my integrity, and suddenly I realised that even that image wasn’t intact where certain friends were concerned.
It hurt like a knife, but as it is said "to be forewarned is to be forearmed". And strangely, I feel lighter knowing exactly where I stand.
This one was like a living nightmare at midnight
Was turning into bed
Happily and a lizard showed up running across the opposite wall - there i was dialing Vikas i feel blessed he took my call came and removed it.
Phew..picture coming up. I decided to put up a better photo :
went for a stroll out into vast expanse of nature, Lilly ponds, and lines of frangipani, on both sides of the walking trail - the fragrance is mesmerizing! 
thats it for now !